In Georgia

Flew into Atlanta, got a shuttle to Athens, then an Uber to Presbyterian Village where Carlene and I had a late dinner in the dining room, then drove her Malibu to my Air BnB.  It was hard to find in the dark, but it's a neat old refurbished house in Watkinsville with a comfortable bed.

We keep hearing Trump's people referring to immigrants as "illegal aliens."  At the Atlanta airport  I met two remarkable immigrants who have more soul in their little fingers than those who disparage them could even imagine.

A man from India took me all the way to the shuttle and waited with me until it arrived.  "If you were my grandma, I wouldn't leave you here all by yourself," he said.

As we waited he told me about a couple in their nineties who needed to go to Montgomery, but arrived too late to get a shuttle--so he drove them there and helped them find a hotel. He told me this in all humility--and seemed surprised that I thought it such a big deal.  "Isn't that what people do for their elders?" he asked.

Then I struck up a conversation with a woman who works in Delaware as a caregiver.  She was waiting for a shuttle to take her to Chattanooga to visit her "adoptive mama"--one of her charges she's come to love like a mother.  

She told me about the woman back home she's currently caring for--a heavy woman in her 80s who can't do anything by herself due to a car accident.  She explained how she used a Hoyer lift to move her from toilet to bed and back again.  

"I love her so much," she said.  "It's such an honor to care for her." 

I told her I was visiting my mom who's a hundred.  "What a blessing!" she said.  "Did she get a letter from the President?"  

I figured if she did, she'd toss it--given who the President is, but didn't say that.  I did say, "I'm sure she would have if Obama had still been in the White House,"--to which she said, "I know that's right!" 

"Your mama has seen a lot in her long life," she said.  "I wonder what she thinks of the mess we're in right now."

About that time, I heard them call out "Athens!" 

She lifted my heavy suitcase into the shuttle and gave me a big hug.  "I love you," she said.

These two beautiful humans are among the countless people who come from other places to make a better life and to help Americans in need.  Aliens, they are not.  Illegal, they are not.  

My friend Nellie (we go back to junior year of high school) has just finished a run of starring as Annie Nations in Melbourne Civic Theater's production of Foxfire.   Tonight she's feeling sad as the sets are being demolished, but according to reviews the play was a big hit!

If you're from the South, you may remember the Foxfire books from Rabun County many years ago, profiles of all things and all people from Appalachia.  Nellie says she actually remembers "hog killing" (one of the books' subjects) and that her father owned and devoured every book.

I'm sure he'd be proud that Nellie brought Annie Nations to life! 

I got this text from her last night: 

Last night a wizened Merlin, bent over his chariot of a walker insisted on my hand and then gently bowed even further to kiss it. I was so humbled as his piercing gaze paid me honor and I bowed to him. It was perfection.  

Hats off (not the brown one Annie wore, but some other one) to my dear friend Nellie Brannan for taking on (and apparently wildly succeeding) in bringing this Appalachian woman back to life! 

I loved her statement in the program which included this line: "I love the South...I want to wallow in it and I want to scrape it all off." 

Pretty sure Luci is Trans....

Trans gender, she pees like a boy.

Trans species, she grooms herself like a cat. 

And according to the consensus of all the people who pet her, she's a mix of Corgi, Dachshund, Sheltie, Collie, and Chihuahua.  Like all of us, she's not just one thing--and I love it that way.

If I could, I would breed her so she'd show me what she's like as a mama--and so I'd have a puppy like her.

She's also transformed me from a non-walker to walker.  Walk is her favorite word.  When I announce one of her two walks a day, she runs to her toy basket, grabs a toy to thank me, and zooms around the house in glee.

When I catch her, I put on the leash and off we go.

Her least favorite phrase is Be Right Back--which means I'm leaving her forlorn and alone.

When I started packing my suitcase for my upcoming trip, she gets inside the suitcase. She doesn't know that this time she's not going, but will hear I'll Be Back when I leave her with Cecelia for six days. 

Yesterday I voted at the library.  While there I found a wonderful book, The Year of the Puppy: How Dogs Become Themselves by Alexandra Horowitz.  I started it this morning at the laundromat and can't put it down. 

Like the writer, also a scientist, I've always been curious about Luci's life before she was mine.  This book is a fascinating account of one puppy's life from birth through her first year as a dog.  

An Original Finds His People

Marcus was a happy entertaining curious original kid.  Sometimes original kids made in a mold of their own don't fit into the high school culture all that well.  He wasn't a star athlete, but he played lacrosse and soccer and loved every sport.  As editor of the high school newspaper, he began to find his own place--a curious observer, a love of life and people.

When he went to VCU, he was determined to find his people--and he did!  He walked into the radio station and the newspaper office and asked for jobs--and got them.  He has the voice and the knowledge of all things sports, so he makes a great interviewer and sportscaster.  

Last week, he and his brother Jackson (who works in Richmond while Marcus is working on his degree) went out to lunch with a long table filled with Marcus' friends and girlfriend.  Jackson surveyed the table and asked Marcus, "Did you ever think you'd have a life like this, a million friends and dating a basketball star?" 

"Sure, I always knew I'd have an amazing life!" Marcus said.  

Here are a few recent shots of Marcus having an amazing life:

Moving into his new apartment He

When he was a little boy, he said he was going to "live with his momma" his whole life, but now his horizons are limitless!  This kid is going places with p-zazz! Even if he weren't my grandson, I'd want to know this super-cool man. 

Grand stars

I've been watching my girl on horseback since she was a baby!

Today our 14-year-old cowboy is barrel racing at the SA Stock Show and Rodeo.   I'm spending the day watching the live stream since I wasn't able to go.  

This one wasn't a win--but she is the star to her whole family watching together and cheering her on via group text.  Tomorrow is another day!

My other nominee for star in my family today is Marcus Leary.

He's always been storyteller, sports fan, and family commentator, and he loves wearing  hats. 

When he went to VCU, he got himself a job as sportscaster for VCU, and we've all been listening to his podcasts interviewing players.  (One of his interviewees, Lucia from Spain, is how his girlfriend.) 

Today we got his first non-sports cast from VCU studio:

https://youtu.be/TutAjPdRSOw

It's  fun to get to watch my formerly-little people grow up and find their passions and love what they're doing! 

Losing it?

I love it when I read something that makes me feel better!

I've been noticing a peculiar thing in my same-age friends and myself--though it manifests differently in each of us: less interest in some things we used to do, less interest in talking and socializing for the sake of socializing, less interest in repetitive conversations and chatter.

The writer of this excellent article explains why far better than I could have done--in part because I think I'd "bought in" to something I keep hearing people say: "we're too old" or "we're just not with it like we used to be." 

No way!  this writer so eloquently explains. 

 https://geediting.com/gen-psychology-says-the-reason-older-people-stop-caring-isnt-apathy-its-actually-the-highest-form-of-self-awareness/

This one, by the same author, describes why we might feel like inclined to "chat" or to have conversations we've had before with the same person or to offer our commentary and opinion about every subject: 

https://geediting.com/d-bt-psychology-says-the-reason-some-people-get-quieter-as-they-age-isnt-withdrawal-its-the-result-of-finally-understanding-which-words-actually-matter/

My Furry Valentine....

 

My furry valentine, my furry valentine, you make me smile......when:

You go everywhere with me, with very few exceptions.  Last night we met Carolyn at PF Chang's, and you sat quietly beside our booth the entire time.  People around us, like always, commented on what a calm and well-behaved girl you are.  Our waitress, like many Corgi owners we've met, thought you were a genuine Corgi!  Sure enough, she showed us a picture of her Welsh Pembroke Corgi who could have been your sister. 

Many nights, like tonight, I stay up the entire night. If my puttering interrupts your sleep, you go next door and perch between the pillows on Elena's bed.  When I go back to bed later, I hear the sound of your little paws clicking on the floor, back to bed with me.  Then you tell me--we have our own language--to please let you under the covers, your favorite place to sleep, as close as you can get.  

This week we met two Golden Retrievers.  Duke, we later found out from Allie their owner, was the grandfather of the other.  Duke is a beautiful brown dog with a kind face who licked Luci through the gate.  Then little Pollo, solid white, did the same.  Every day since, you've pulled in the direction of their fenced yard, wagging your tail, hoping to once again kiss and be kissed. 

On Thursday, I went for a massage at Cecelia's house.  You love Cecelia and her son who's visiting.  You wait on a folded blanket on the floor when I'm getting a massage--and then, soon as it's over, you jump from the floor onto the table, front down, butt up, saying okay, it's time to go now.  

Afterwards, we were the only two at Fish City Grill's happy hour.  I ordered calamari and a crab cake with salad.  Since no one else was on the patio, I gave you a few calamari--which you ate, but without enthusiasm.  Odd little things they were.  When you were done with them, you scraped up enough gravel and dirt to bury them inconspicuously under my chair.  

You rarely make a sound.  You bark vigorously at the mailman and Amazon delivery man.  How dare they put foreign objects through the mail slot into your house!   Except for the occasional door bark you are the quietest little dog I've ever met.  You don't even whimper to go outside or ask for treats--as most of my former canine valentines used to do.  You simply stare at me until I decipher your requests.  

Yesterday I had left the front door open to unpack groceries--and it was when I was putting a few things in the casita kitchen that the mailman arrived.  Instead of barking, since the door was open, you went outside to greet him without a single bark--and when I discovered you were out, I saw him kneeling on the ground petting you and you lapping it up. 

In the middle of the night when you want to go outside, you do s wild and crazy  run/jump combo and head straight to the corner of the yard from whence other creatures are apt to emerge.  We've seen foxes, skunks, possums.  You might be cautious in the daylight, but in the dark, you're a wild girl, out to show them all how big and strong and fearless you are. 

So on Valentine's Day, I'm remembering former furry loves--Tony and Ivan and Sasha and Black and Cookie and Pollo and many more--and I'm savoring every single minute being the object of your over-the-top love!  

Mystical, Magical, Musical

Of all my teachers in public school, Mrs. Murrow, a gray-haired grandmotherly teacher, was my hands-down favorite.  In the attractiveness department, she was the least memorable, but I remember her for her teaching enthusiasm, her blackboard drawings, and her whole-hearted embrace of a classroom of seven year olds.  She checked all the boxes for excellence in teaching, but she made us feel seen.  She knew us.  

I recently found anmimeographed hand-printed letter she'd written to our parents in which she mentioned every single one of us by name and noted something special about us.

She called me a day-dreamer, but not to worry about that--it just meant that one day I'd be a "writer."

Mrs. Murrow was the only teacher I recall having a sense of humor. When I bit my new ring and it got stuck on my finger,  she just smiled and took me to the girls' bathroom and soaped it up--and it came right off!

Was she married?  Did she have children, grandchildren?  I have no idea.  She didn't talk about herself, only about the subjects she was determined to instill in our minds. 

In the seventh grade, Mrs. Dykes entertained us with stories, but I can't actually remember what she taught us.  She'd walk up and down the rows of us, seemingly lost in her own thoughts, telling about her life and her opinions.  She's the teacher who exposed us to the "one drop" theory of genetics.  She also told us that if we picked at a pimple, we could get a brain tumor. 

But one thing she said that mystified me at the time stayed with me more than any sentence spoken by a teacher in my pre-college years: "I love words!" 

She didn't elaborate, or if she did, I don't remember what she said.  But I puzzled over that strange sentence.  How could a person have affection for words?

Now that I've spent a lifetime loving words, I get it.  From the enlarged font of first grade readers to the  poetry and prose that makes me feel awake and alive, I've always loved words.

Never good at crossword puzzles, I'm obsessive and quite good at the New York Times' Spelling Bee, a game in which you make as many words as you can with a hive of seven letters.  

I love the alliteration of mystical, magical, musical, maniacal, memory. 

The tipping point between acquaintanceship and friendship is discovering, through words, a shared sensibility. 

I love words that poke into predictable discourse with humor or a gem of a phrase. 

I save handwritten cards and letters virtually forever.  In handwriting, we get next-best thing to hearing the voice of that person on that particular day he or she wrote them. 

I love words that convey intimacy, vulnerability, kindness, intelligence, and rock-solid honesty. 

Nap Times

One of the best things about naps is you get two days in one!

I am so inspired by the Handmade Book Club videos that I utilize every minute of Time Real Estate to watch tutorials and then look in my stash of papers for the next book.  Sitting time is spent folding and cutting signatures--and that's what I did yesterday before and after Elena's rodeo.

Will was filming her excellent run, no barrels down, when suddenly she took that last turn and fell.  I've never seen her fall before, but her parents say she always gets right up.  Yesterday she didn't get up until Will rushed onto the arena and helped her up, then limped off with her daddy, her ego bruised more than anything.  They'd just gotten a new saddle for Yancey and it didn't fit properly--which is why, they think, she fell. 

Meanwhile, Marcus is sports announcing in Richmond and attending all the basketball games his girlfriend, Lucia from Spain, plays. 

I'm not a sports fan--unless some of my kids are playing--so Super Bowl Sunday is a day of rest and designing books.  The three I'm making later today will have leather covers, my first--one with a saddle stitch binding, one with a chain stitch, and one honeycomb.  

Screen Winners of the Month

Thanks to Netflix, we have two must-watches:

The Road Within, 2014, where have you been for the past 12 years?  I love you--you and your OCD and Tourette's and Anorexic kids taking a road trip together!  

Eleanor the Great, you made me think about grief and caring in a way I'd never thought about it before--and I thank you for that.  

The Pitt, well everybody knows by now that you're one great series!  But now you have to wait from one Thursday to the next to see the newest episodes!  Come on, let us binge!

Shrinking, your cast of therapists who are a little crazy--every one of them is so real and engaging and funny!