Four Weekend Snapshots

1. 

Driving into the Container Store parking lot yesterday, I saw the most remarkable traveling trio.  A man in a wheel chair was riding through the parking lot from  busy San Pedro. 

That, alone, would have been noteworthy.

But he was being led by one dog and followed by the other--no leashes anywhere.  

Once parked, I stopped to talk to him.  A recent amputee named Joe, he was happy to talk about his dogs, Dusty and Doo Dah.  Dusty was a beautiful sleek black dachshund and Doo Dah, with his copper and white coat,  could have been a relative of Luci--except that he had a scary bark on him.  

Luci was attracted to the quiet little Dusty and not particularly interested in the barker who was giving her a noisy what-for.

"He's scared shitless of everybody," Joe said.  "He just barks because he's scared.  It don't mean nothing."

I was curious.  How did they navigate traffic?  How did he keep two dogs so close to him without leashes?

He shrugged.  "They's no other way.  If I want to go someplace they go."  Dusty, his human engaged in conversation, wandered a few feet away to sniff some tires.  But all Joe had to do was say "Come on back here, Dusty" and he came right back. 

2. 

I got home with my new shelves in time for my excellent new handyman to install them.  

He showed me a picture on his phone--a project he did for one of his clients.

After he built her wall of tables, look what she did with it! 

3.

Elena's big catch--from pics sent by her dad of their weekend fishing trip, a girl after her daddy's (and her granddaddy's) heart! 

4.

The Learys at the Cherry Blossom Festival this weekend in D.C. 

Here is Day's accompanying text: 

"It was amaaaazing. There were these teams who flew kites to music and coordination with each other!  It made me cry because there was all this joy all over the entire mall even though there’s shitty politics. No one cared about anything but the wind and the beautiful kites."

I want to go there next year! 

Love-ability

As a teacher, I just-about always found lots of lovable in the students in my classes. Teaching is a profession that attracts all kinds of people, especially mama types like me--especially in public school education.  

On the first day of class, I sat them in a circle and we got to know each other, pretty sure an activity of less appeal to my math and biology colleagues. In that first hour together,  I sat back and soaked them up, taking note of what interested them, memorizing their names, knowing that to proceed we had to stumble upon common bonds to proceed with a semester--or in the case of middle and high school students, an entire year.

Over the course of our time together, there were favorites I still remember.  With a few, intimacies shared in their writing touched me and made them memorable. I loved a lot of kids along the way.

Some called teaching a profession with way more "psychic income" than monetary rewards. For mama types, fair enough at the time.  Whetting students' appetites for words, observing progress in their ability to connect them into sentences and paragraphs was rewarding.  But without partners with larger paychecks, most of us couldn't have survived on our pathetic salaries.  I often mused that the university spent more on a couple of flower beds than on the salaries of freshman comp. teachers.

Years after teaching middle school, I got a Christmas call from a former student, by then in the Navy, stationed somewhere overseas.  "I ain't never had a teacher as good as you," he said--no testament to my teaching of grammar, but when he elaborated on that point, it was clear that he remembered that I laughed at his jokes and cared about him. 

A recent episode of "Unsung Heroes" (NPR) summed up my philosophy about people back then: 

After 9/11, the speaker found that she was terrified of flying for years.  She was suspicious of strangers and terrorism and airplanes. 

One day, she had to fly somewhere.  Even before take-off, she was wringing her hands, her breathing shallow.  When the stranger sitting beside her struck up a conversation, she told him why she was so afraid. That conversation changed her life, she said. 

It was just four words, really, that changed her life: "Most people," he said, "are good."

This man probably has no memory of speaking those words, yet she said it changed her outlook and the way she parented her children.  Now, instead of fearing the terrible, she looks for the good. 

I still want to agree with Anne Frank--that "most people are basically good. But I don't rock-solid believe it anymore.  That half of our voters would elect Donald Trump, not once but twice, has shaken so many foundations that my brain probably looks like rubble in a war zone. 

I won't elaborate, or we'd be here all day.

When I'm trying to feel generous of spirit or wiser than I am, I try to imagine Donald Trump as somebody's first grader.  I try to think of him as somebody's little boy, maybe a trouble maker or a bully but reachable at least. Surely, I tell my former-teacher self, there is something to like about him. I could take him aside during lunch and we could talk about empathy and manners maybe? 

I'm not that wise or generous of spirit.  

Sunday, March 23

Getting old is filled with life lessons. My curriculum includes recognizing and appreciating pain-free moments. I plan my days around them:  

Whatever time I wake up I start my morning ritual: meds, then a lie-down until the pain in my back, legs, and feet subsides enough to walk Luci around the block.  At 11:00, like clockwork, repeat. Phone off.  Six days out of the past seven the pain has been straight-up excruciating. 

I see an excellent chiropractor twice a week and get a massage about once a week. The results are impressive for a few hours. During the breaks in pain I juggle errands and phone calls and book making.  A single hour of cutting, painting, stitching, and sorting is bliss. 

But most of my hours include lying down, watching Handmade Book Club videos and movies and sleeping.  I've watched all 12 episodes of The Pitt, four episodes of the mini series of Adolescence--both outstanding. I've watched The Miracle Club, The Year of the Dog, and Twisters.  And I've folded eight signatures for a book it will take me weeks to finish. 

I know instantly when it's time to stop standing and start reclining with ice packs, meds, and feet up.  The clues are unmistakable--a burning in the feet, heat and pain in the lower back, the whole right leg on fire.

These rituals have taught me to appreciate every moment of creativity, to regard them as vital to my sanity and joy.  Pain is a humbling teacher. 

Trump 101 in the public school

A public school teacher in Idaho made a poster saying, "Everyone is welcome."

Below the words were ten hands with hearts on them.

The teacher was ordered to take it down.  Why?  Each hand was a different skin tone.  How dare she suggest that students of all colors were welcome in her classroom?

At first, the young history teacher obeyed, but she was very unsettled by it and a few days later taped it back on the door.

She has been ordered to take it down by the end of the school year of face disciplinary action, possibly termination, due to her "insubordination." 

Home Again after Ten Days in Georgia and Virginia

It was a perfect  trip--half of it with Day and Carlene in Athens, then the other half with the Learys in Virginia.  

One of the Georgia highlights was a day trip to Madison, we three plus Luci, where we saw one shop in which every window was filled with enormous papers flowers on green covered stalks.  Note to self and Day--make some of those flowers ourselves.

One of the Virginia highlights was that Marcus, Jackson and Deanna drove from Richmond to share the weekend, Marcus on a five day trip to do sports announcing!  Day's dream is a backyard studio and we all spent Sunday afternoon measuring it out with string, 20' x 12'.  

The Leary dog, Tucker,  finding a sunny spot on the kitchen floor on a cold day. 

Day making sour dough bread

Day and Jackson by the trampoline which they are getting rid of.

Marcus measuring with string

Tom practicing a golf swing
with a studio-measuring stake 

Day and Tom in their third decade together, happy as ever! 

Jackson, Deanna, Marcus and Scout 

Before driving me to the airport yesterday, Marcus and I had lunch at Nando's. 

Nana and Day at Presbyterian Village 

My beautiful mama and I in her room. 

Jackson is winding into the last two months of his graduate program and he gets his Masters Degree in April.

Marcus--whose goal is sports-casting--is getting jobs already in his sophomore year at VCU! 

Deanna (Jackson's girlfriend) is awaiting news on her own graduate school admission, and she's working with children with autism.