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Wednesday, June 30, 2021

Upcoming Visit with the Virginians

 


My grandsons in Virginia are both well over six feet tall and Tucker weighs in at about ten pounds.  These "gentle giants" as their mama calls them are in love with their tiny puppy dog.  Because of Marcus' dog allergies, this is their first dog--a hypoallergenic Havenese. 

I will see them in 13 days--finally!--not having seen them since Christmas 2019.  Instead of crowding us all into this little space with floor-to-floor mattresses, they will be staying in a hotel on the Riverwalk with a pool.




Tuesday, June 29, 2021

At the beginning of her best seller memoir, Eat, Pray, Love, Liz Gilbert said, "I have lost my appetite for life."  

Liz divorced her husband and traveled to Italy, India, and Indonesia--the kind of extended trip that would appeal to any woman at a crossroads who's lost her appetite for many things. When the appetite is gone, try something exotic and distant.  

Because I've watched so many movies this month--good ones, marginal ones, and cheesy ones--I decided to watch the movie version of Eat, Pray Love.  I'd read the book when it first came out, back when I was doing my own more modest solo traveling by car.  

As I watched  pretty woman Julia Roberts visiting  pretty places, I was not inspired by it as I had been the book.  For one thing, I've reached the expiration date for traveling solo to other countries.  Gilbert's quest is for young, hip, fit, and wealthy women.

I did go pick up an order of spaghetti after watching Julia Roberts' enjoying some genuine Italian spaghetti.  Maybe that would do it for me!  But what I got from Julian's was a flavorless pale pink spaghetti with no thick sauce or meatballs.  

More and more often as I flip through magazines and watch movies I think "Not Applicable." Recycled make-up advice, weight loss tips, recipes and fashions seem irrelevant to where I am at the time.  

But I related to the "loss of appetite" phrase.  Since my surgery, I have had hardly any appetite--for food, for making things, for reading.  I feel I'm in a sort of limbo waiting to fully recover enough to go or do anything.

Others feel a similar limbo, I think. The pandemic tamped down adventure and  travel.  Add to that surgery and other life changes and the fact that almost half of us have not been vaccinated-- it just feels safer to stay put.

But how to re-awaken appetites?  That is the question rumbling around in my mind on this rainy Tuesday afternoon.  






Saturday, June 26, 2021

Saturday

This morning I walked a half block with Luci, Jan and Carma; took the car to the car wash; gassed it up; returned an item--and that's going to be my day outside.

My right leg with the new titanium knee is doing way better. With my canine cane--Luci on a leash--I can maneuver just about anything.  She's never rambunctious on her leash and always waits for me to take a step before she does.  

At the car wash, we met a man, an architect, and talked dogs for a bit.  Then Luci threw up on the concrete floor and the nice man cleaned it up for me.  "I saw that scar on your knee," he said.

So my body is moving along and my spirit is lagging behind.  I'm hoping for a big mood shift before the day is over!

Here's a joy-bringing photo of Jackson (almost 20) and tiny Tucker.  I will get to see the Learys in July for five days and meet this little grand puppy. 




Wednesday, June 23, 2021

Wednesday Morning

This week's milestones so far:

My first slo-o-o-w walk around the block with Luci. It felt good to be out after the rain and see the crepe myrtles ablaze on our street and dogs walking their people. 

My first drive over a mile or two.  I drove to my doctor's office with a back ache to "rule out a bladder infection or something."  The PA told me it was probably "just" a back ache, but she'd get back to me in three days.

My therapist taught me to use a cane properly, on the good side--not the way I'd been doing.

For the first time in a month, I lowered myself into a hot bathtub of water and managed--with a few awkward gyrations--to get back out.  

  


Sunday, June 20, 2021

Happy Father's Day

Anyone who knows me knows about my daddy--whose main goal in life was to provide love and security to his family.  He hugged me with both arms and his whole heart and his love was the air I breathed.

It was in May before he died in July that I took this fishing picture--though it was impossible that day to imagine him going anywhere!  I will never stop missing him and I feel his presence every day. 




Yesterday Victoria brought Panamanian chicken soup to Jan and me.  She snapped a few pictures of me standing at the gate in my bathrobe holding Luci.  

You can't see my daddy in the picture--but he's right there behind me in my mind, a hundred years old and smiling, his hands on my shoulders. 




Saturday, June 19, 2021

moaning

The night after the implant of my new knee I moaned all night.  It didn't occur to me to press the button and say, "Hey, is there anyone who could come talk to me?"

Nor did it occur to me to ask, "Do you have any stronger medicine than this?"

I am relatively new to surgeries, so I'm learning as I go.

Later that first night, a young patient-care man I assumed was a nurse helped me to the bathroom and left me there for half an hour.  I pulled the little cord and nobody came.  When he came back, I forced a conversation by accusing him of leaving me alone at a time when I could not possibly get back to bed alone.  

This never happened again.  In fact, he later came back and apologized and asked me what he could do to make it up to me.  I said I'd very much like a Diet Coke and he went to the lobby and purchased one.

I drank a few sips and returned to my moaning.   When, later, a real nurse came in I apologized for moaning so much.

"That's okay, Honey," she said.  "Moaning is good for you.  Moan away."

And so I continued to moan whenever I felt like it, alternating with cries, then turning the two strains into a mantra I shall call New Knee Mantra.  

Yesterday I moaned because I was nauseated; the two days before that I moaned with the pain.  It's a trade-off, looks like---you get one or the other, not both if you're lucky.

Janet gave me a precious gift: she had taken home a piece of furniture in my bathroom and painted it a perfect shade of red.  (I'd tried another red and it was ghastly!) So she and Bill delivered it and set it up in the bathroom and it is beautiful, exactly what I was going for.  

Then Victoria went to the pharmacy to pick up some new nausea medicine, brought me a few pieces of steak and a brownie and a red sketchbook.  The medicine and few bites of steak worked like a charm and I stopped moaning and slept happily like the proverbial baby! 

Luci is concerned when I moan, but then she dives under the covers and puts her head on my knee or just sits quietly and gazes at me.  Gina--who comes to clean and help me a few days a week--said "You're her whole world, of course she's worried."

Luci is the sort of dog who rarely makes a sound.  She's a quiet dog who barks only briefly when someone comes inside for the first time, then quits when I hug that person.  "OH, these are our people!" she wags.   She now loves them all, including Gina and the physical therapist.  She has a particular affinity for Chris who rubs my legs and guides me through the moves.  The whole time he's working on my legs, she's licking his hands!

So this morning, I've had some wonderful phone calls, starting with Carlene's, and Will came and made me grits and took Luci for a walk and drove me to the bank.  I am not moaning today.  I feel very good--thanks to friends, family, two new red gifts, and getting the meds just right.


Thursday, June 17, 2021

Update post-surgery

Thank you all for your cards and texts!  Each one is a day brightener, and I keep them in a drawer with intentions to thank each of you personally after this is all over. 

These last three days have been hard.  Each time a medicine is added or deleted, there are unexpected side effects, but I have two doctors who call me personally to discuss options.  Starting tonight, I'm taking 3 ibuprofen for inflammation three times a day and I am crossing my fingers that this one hits the spot.  It makes sense--as ibuprofen goes after inflammation, and inflammation is the source of most pain.

I'm also advised to try eating a little more and drinking more liquids--which is what I'm doing tonight with a boiled egg and cheese and crackers.  


Monday, June 14, 2021

Happy Monday

I'm feeling much stronger today.  I'm walking more naturally and had a huge milestone--I can now get into and out of the bathtub by myself for a real bath!  Yoo-Hoo!

Janet came over today to help me with physical therapy and brought Val.  Those two dogs ran each other ragged. 

Bob and Jocelyn sent me a soft comfortable foam pad  intended for knee exercises.

Luci, the diva, thinks it's for her.  If anyone but me attempts to use it, she puts her paw on it as if to say "Mine!" 


Luci and Val fight and kiss and make up and fight some more, and Luci loves chewing on Val's bandana:




Before and after physical therapy, Luci curls up with her head on my knee.  How does she know what hurts and how to make it better? From the day we came home from rehab, she's been very attentive to my knee and sleeps at night curled against my leg under the covers. 




Sunday, June 13, 2021

Three Weeks In

Poor Puppy--if it weren't for Jan and Carma who come to get her for romps and walks every single day.  I'm no fun to be with.  I lie in bed, do my exercises, watch movies, and sleep.  Today I'm beginning to read my first novel since surgery: Valentine, set in Odessa, recommended by Bonnie.  Dutch House is next--a gift from Janet at the hospital.  

Movies are merging into each other, but my appetite and energy are low, so I'm watching one after the other.  I'm playing Solitaire, not caring if I win or not, just as an exercise to see if my brain is working.  Kate brings medicine I need at ten at night.  Freda brings spaghetti and I eat five or six bites of it and we talk, her in a chair, me on the bed.  Janet helps me with difficult leg exercises.  Luci looks up at me with her hopeful eyes: are you better yet, can we play ball?

My voice gets rough after a little talking, so I turn off the phone about now and hope to read myself to sleep.  I can walk from room to room without a walker or cane.  Every day is a little better than the day before. 

Calls, emails and texts from friends and family matter-- a lot, though I don't always have the energy to talk more than a few minutes.  

I'm hoping for a full recovery by the time Day and Tom and the boys come in July.  And then, next on the agenda is a trip to Georgia. 

"Nobody told me it would be this hard," I said to my doctor--who replied what docs reply after childbirth.  "If you knew, you'd never do it." 





Saturday, June 12, 2021

Saturday

 Today was Carlene's first chance to go visit her sister Dot since before the pandemic!  I'm so happy to see them together--from afar!


I had two friends visit today--Bonnie and Jan.  Here's Jan coming to deliver Luci after her hour-long playdate with Carma:



Bonnie is recovering from hip surgery, but she's already driving and walking without a cane!




Wednesday, June 9, 2021

June 9th

Today--had I not broken my promise "to love and obey til death do us part"--  would have been the 54th anniversary of my first and only wedding.  Can you believe we actually said "obey"?  Without anyone so much as blinking an eye?  

But that's how it was in 1967.  The girl I was, at 18, made a promise I'm happy to say I broke after 28 years to begin a new life.

Today I celebrated another milestone toward straightening and bending my leg with Janet and Chris--Janet the observer and coach, Chris the physical therapist, me puffing as if I were having a baby and Janet and Chris saying "You can do it!"  It's amazing how much more a leg will bend if you have a dear friend cheering you on. Chris says I'm making good progress and can graduate to a cane this week. 

All the while Luci was walking with Jan and playing with Carma and Makken.  We received a package in the mail from Marlene, Carlene's friend, three stuffed animals with squeaky sound effects.  Luci grabbed them as if she knew they were hers.  She sat under the table playing happily with her new toys while Janet and I talked, then she jumped in Janet's lap for kisses.




I spent most of the day in bed, hired a woman named Gina who will help me with housework and shopping and errands until I can walk and drive.  

Luci hopes I will throw her new toys so she can fetch them and bring them back.  I do that for a while, then she decides she will throw them for herself and catch them and make them squeak in every room of the house. 

When the sun goes down, her eyes close and she dreams of catching big scary squeaky things, growling  tiny dreamy growls at her imaginary prey. 

I go back to watching Rose and Maloney, recommended by Betty.  I'm liking it. The ice and pain pills are taking effect and I feel sleep coming on.  

Today has been, all things considered, a very good day. 






Monday, June 7, 2021

Two Weeks Into New Knee

 I wish I could report that I'm dancing a little, but I'm not.  I am happily at home where my family and friends are showering me with love, food, cards and dog walks for Luci by Jan.  

There have been many happy moments interspersed with pain (which is lessening every day) but I'm not yet quite ready to write about them right now. 

Janet spent the entire weekend before this in the rehab with me, going to PT and encouraging me to keep up with the at home exercises.  Then Day came and took over and brought me home and Janet took Luci from Will until I was dismissed.  Will and family came over this weekend and hugs and laughs with the kids was excellent medicine.  


Janet took these beautiful photos of Val and Luci at her house--told me they are in love!



Victoria and Day.....