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Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Eating together




Pam has a theory that friends should not eat alone. So tonight, she made delicious cornbread and we topped it with black beans, cheese, cilantro, sweet onions and cherry tomatoes.  So simple, yet so good.

I got gelato for dessert, but we only ate a little bit, both of us determined to start eating healthier.


Lots of research suggests that tumeric is very healing for people suffering from auto-immune diseases and may even protect the brain.  My experience these last two days with tumeric is only anecdotal, of course, but I can say that I feel much better and the only change I've made is drinking vegetable juices with added tumeric and black pepper.






Wednesday

Today I feel MUCH better!

I've been drinking vegetable juices with tumeric added--good for inflammation.  The physical therapist today told me about something called a "healing crisis," during which you can have flu-like symptoms while your body is starting to heal.  The work she does establishes new patterns for the body and while the body is adjusting, it sometimes feels unhappy.

I washed my car, went to PT, then had lunch with Mary--one of my Topo Chicas.

My energy is back, the pain has gone away, and I feel today like myself again.

Mary was driving a beautiful new red car.  She showed me her her purchasing criteria and I thought her graph was so cool I wanted to share it with you:  Notice that 73 percent is "Makes me feel pretty."


Monday, August 29, 2016

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, JAN!

Yesterday, I was walking into my  house and Jan was working in her yard.  We kvetched a bit about aging, both of us having had bouts with poly and fibro myalgia this year.  "I'm going to get this done before I turn seventy one!" she laughed.

Jan could pass for fifty-something.  She's always been super active and is a great cook of nutritional foods, many of which I've been able to share as her neighbor.  Having such a good friend as a next door neighbor is wonderful!

Here she is in April as we were celebrating a friend's birthday at The Pearl.



Sunday, August 28, 2016

A flock of blue flamingos on my street this morning



I just caught a glimpse of these fluorescent-yellow-beaked birds--two rows of them, each row standing at attention, each row looking in a different direction, with a few random rebels about.

Curious, isn't it, what people want?

According to Pam's friend Ellie (mother of her friend Zet), "If you want something, it's what your soul wants and you better go get you some."  I'm guessing the people at 411 Ogden want them some flamingos.

Yesterday I set out looking for a sofa and wound up in Dripping Springs.  Sue at Bygones had told me about a huge fabric store there and I drove there, solo, to get me some.

I now have enough swatches I could make me a patchwork sofa.  I get up in the night and arrange them on old chairs.  Finally at one in the morning, it all clicks and I know which ones to keep and which ones to toss in Elena's fabric box.




What Mike wants is to take old rusty things and restore them to mint condition.  He bought an old rocket from Frank from San Antonio's former Playland Park:




Then he painted it, upholstered it, and even had the original decals reproduced--Atomic Jet. Next step, it gets an engine and will really rock and roll!



Whatever you want this Sunday morning, go out and get you some!


First Week of School

Elena's Pre-K Class

Nathan and Elena in front of her school. Primrose


Music Class


First day of 4th Grade at Helotes Elementary

Friday, August 26, 2016

Last day of Week One at School.

I picked up Elena at preschool, then we went out to Papi's to look at pots.  Mexico Linda has now moved from 1604 to Bandera Road.


Then a trip to a quilt shop where I let her choose two fat quarters of fabric--she chose monkeys and horses, of course.



She likes her new school, all but nap time.  "They try to shush me," she tells her parents.

"Who are you talking to during nap time?" they ask.

"Everybody!" she says.

She opted not to spend the night, so she's on her way home now after making a batch of cupcakes almost all by herself. "You do the measuring, Yenna.  I'll do everything else."

This child is a thousand rays of sunshine!




Wednesday, August 24, 2016

My mother Carlene's 91st birthday today....

I'd planned to be there to celebrate but we're going to have a belated birthday celebration in September or October.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you, Carlene--a remarkably ageless, lively mother who started life South Georgia in 1925.

According to her birthday lore,  Mimi and Papa didn't have a baby bed for her at first, so she slept in a dresser drawer!  Papa said it was the hottest day of the year.

She grew up on a farm and had to ride the school bus to school in Perry.  Her big brother Bob died at the age of ten, when she was only 7, then another brother, David, was born three years later.  She was devastated to lose her big brother and later named my brother after him.  Richard was the third brother; he and David both died two years ago.

Carlene loved friends, as she always has.  One day she announced to Bob that she wouldn't be going home on the bus, that she was going home with a friend instead.  It didn't take Papa long to retrieve his little brown-eyed girl from Perry and take her home.

Another day a teacher asked her to make a phone call, and she didn't know how to use the phone so she picked up the receiver and talked into it, pretending to be making the call.

Carlene attended GSCW--Georgia State College for Women--where she was editor of the literary magazine and Flannery O'Connor was her assistant.  In 1945, after college and my daddy's Navy days, they eloped and then my daddy got his degree in agriculture at the University of Georgia while she typed dissertations for students.  I was born three years later and we lived in Married Housing in Athens.

Of the five Ogletree children, only the two, the daughters, are still living--Dot and Carlene, best friends and almost-daily telephone chatters.  Both are healthy as ever!

Here's Carlene today--photos sent by Jocelyn from their birthday lunch at Carlene's house.











Friendship Part 2

One of the really cool things about the Blogosphere is meeting kindred spirit bloggers.  Writing for Self Discovery is hosted by a friend of Diana's--Sherry who lives and leads writing workshops in Bali.

Commenting on my recent post on friendship, she sent a link to a good article written by her daughter in the New York Times: "Do your friends really like you?"

http://www.nytimes.com/2016/08/07/opinion/sunday/do-your-friends-actually-like-you.html?partner=rss&emc=rss&_r=1


Sunday, August 21, 2016

Friendship

Today, I had a long conversation about friendship with a few old friends: Anne Lamott, David Whyte, Aristotle, and Emerson.  C.S. Lewis dropped in, then Maurice Sendak and John O'Donahue and Rilke.

Only one of these people I've ever met in person (David Whyte), and several were dead before I was born, but thanks to the blog "Brainpickings," and its creator,  the brilliant Maria Popova, I spent the morning in bed with them all.

(I've already done what she cautions against in defining friendship--I've claimed as friends admired writers who don't even know me!)

What is friendship?  We use the word too liberally, Popova suggests.







Here's a brief summary of her onion of people and which ones are which:

Acquaintances are people we know--out of the thousands of people we've met briefly or seen in the same places.  We like them well enough, but we don't call them friends.  

The next circle in the onion of people are the ones we know and like.  Maybe they work in the same office or share a couple of hobbies, but our conversations are usually superficial.

Then there are kindred spirits--the ones whose beliefs and values are closest to our own, even if we aren't mutual friends.  From this circle of the onion, real friendships can sometimes grow--because we have a lot in common: our politics, our books, our histories, our beliefs.

The tiny core at the center of the onion--that's friends.  Unlike the acquaintances we like better than strangers, friends are the people--most friend-definers agree--with whom we can reveal our true selves.

http://us2.campaign-archive2.com/?u=13eb080d8a315477042e0d5b1&id=553fc8c01c&e=7940cd5ca2

"The concentrating force that transmutes a kinship of spirit into a friendship is emotional and psychological intimacy. A friend is a person before whom we can strip our ideal self in order to reveal the real self, vulnerable and imperfect, and yet trust that it wouldn’t diminish the friend’s admiration and sincere affection for the whole self, comprising both the ideal and the real."




Saturday, August 20, 2016

A wolf cub in the bath tub

This nine-second video of Elena always makes me smile.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=In0BtJq8Jzg


P.S. on walking

The other two movies Deb recommended are these:

A Walk in the Woods

Walking the Camino--Six Ways to Santiago

These I plan to watch later today.

I'm inspired!


Life In A Walk

How well do we really know each other, any of us, even the people with whom we're genetically close?

I'm thinking about that in the middle of the night as I've just watched Life in A Walk (free on Amazon), an excellent documentary by Yogi Roth, a young man who invited his dad to take a long walk with him--the Camino De Santiago, a famous pilgrimage through Portugal and Spain. As a young man who's traveled the world, even spent a month in India with his dad, Yogi wants to know his father better, ask him questions, and learn more from him.

Some people take this pilgrimage for religious or spiritual reasons, others for the challenge of doing something physically challenging. For Yogi and his father, Will, the walk was a way to spend time together walking through beautiful villages and landscapes.

What makes each of us uniquely who we are is a mystery, even to ourselves.  Why do we want certain things and not others?  Why are we attracted to certain people as friends and partners?  What are our idiosyncrasies, our dreams, our favorite pieces of music?  How do we spend our solitary hours?  What places on the planet do we want to see before we die?  When a stranger asks us, "What do you do?" what do we say?  What are our regrets, our happiest memories? What excites us, makes us lose track of time?

The tapestry of being this human being with other human beings is endlessly fascinating, often frustrating, and infinitely expansive.  Why, I ask myself watching this documentary, don't we spend more time getting to know the people we love?

When my friend Deb called me a few nights ago to recommend this movie, she said, "I have decided I want to walk the Camino De Santiago and you're the person I want to walk it with," I thought......Hmmm, really?  I'm not a walker or a religious pilgrim.  I'm a driver, a picture taker.  But okay, I'll watch these movies about the walk and see if I can figure out why you want to do this....

Deb wants to experience what it's like to "carry what you can only carry on your back."  She's 54 and this is her dream before she dies, "even with these terrible feet of mine."

When we spend times with friends and family, we usually talk about the past or we tell each other stories we've told before or we catch up on things that have happened since we last saw each other.   This film inspires me to be with people in the present, to do something together that leaves us changed in some way, bigger.







Friday, August 19, 2016

Silent Questions

In the early seventies, as a middle-school English teacher, I read two excellent books by Neil Postman: Silent Questions and Teaching as a Subversive Activity.  I loved these book so much that I often read passages aloud to my thirteen-year-old students.

As I watch the 2016 political campaign, I often think of these books.

Here is a portion of the book, Silent Questions:

I cannot vouch for the story, but I have been told that once upon a time, in a village in what is now Lithuania, there arose a most unusual problem. A curious disease afflicted many of the townspeople. It was mostly fatal (although not always), and its onset was signaled by the victim's lapsing into a deathlike coma. Medical science not being quite so advanced as it is now, there was no definite way of knowing if the victim was actually dead when it appeared seemly to bury him. As a result, the townspeople feared that several of their relatives had already been buried alive and that a similar fate might await them—a terrifying prospect, and not only in Lithuania. How to overcome this uncertainty was their dilemma.

One group of people suggested that the coffins be well stocked with water and food and that a small air vent be drilled into them just in case one of the "dead" happened to be alive. This was expensive to do, but seemed more than worth the trouble. A second group, however, came up with an inexpensive and more efficient idea. Each coffin would have a twelve-inch stake affixed to the inside of the coffin lid, exactly at the level of the heart. Then, when the coffin was closed, all uncertainty would cease.

This is no record as to which solution was chosen, but for my purposes, whichever it was is irrelevant. What is mostly important here is that the two different solutions were generated by two different questions. The first solution was an answer to the question, How can we make sure that we do not bury people who are still alive? The second was an answer to the question, How can we make sure that everyone we bury is dead?

The point is that all the answers we ever get are responses to questions. The questions may not be evident to us, especially in everyday affairs, but they are there nonetheless, doing their work. Their work, of course, is to design the form that our knowledge will take and therefore to determine the direction of our actions. A great deal of stupid and/or crazy talk is produced by bad, unacknowledged questions which inevitably produce bad and all-too-visible answers...

The first problem, then, in question-asking language may be stated this way: The type of words used in a question will determine the type of the words used in the answer. In particular, question-words that are vague, subjective and not rooted in any verifiable reality will produce their own kind in the answer. 

A second problem arises from certain structural characteristics, or grammatical properties, of sentences. For example, many questions seem almost naturally to imply either-or alternatives. "Is that good?" (as against "bad"), "Is she smart?" (as against "dumb"), "Is he rich?" (as against "poor"), and so on. The English language is heavily biased toward "either-or-ness," which is to say that it encourages us to talk about the world in polarities. We are inclined to think of things in terms of their singular opposites rather than as part of a continuum of multiple alternatives. Black makes us think of white, rich of poor, smart of dumb, fast of slow, and so one. Naturally, when questions are put in either-or terms, they will tend to call for an either-or answer. "This is bad," "She's dumb," "He's poor," etc. There are many situations in which such an answer is all that is necessary, since the questioner is merely seeking some handy label, to get a "fix" on someone, so to speak. But, surprisingly and unfortunately, this form of question is also used in situations where one would expect a more serious and comprehensive approach to a subject...

A similar structural problem in our questions is that we are apt to use singular forms instead of plural ones. What is the cause of...? What is the reason for...? As with either-or questions, the form of these questions limits our search for answers and therefore impoverishes our perceptions. We are not looking for causes, reasons, or results, but for the cause, the reason, and the result. The idea of multiple causality is certainly not unfamiliar, and yet the form in which we habitually ask some of our most important questions tends to discourage our thinking about it. What is the cause of your overeating? What will be the effect of school integration? What is the problem that we face? I do not say that a question of this sort rules out the possibility of our widening our inquiries. But to the extent that we allow the form of such questions to get unchallenged, we are in danger of producing shallow and unnecessarily restricted answers.

This is equally true of the third source of problems in question-asking language, namely, the assumptions that underlie it. Unless we are paying very close attention, we can be led into accepting as fact the most precarious and even preposterous ideas...


Thursday, August 18, 2016

Language and a Four-Year-Old

I love observing the ways children acquire language.  I listen to Elena and wonder how a four-year-old can remember so many new words without knowing yet how to spell them and what they look like on a page.  Once we know how to read, don't we all automatically spell out new words in our minds?  Or write them down to fix them in memory?

"Dehydrated," for example--a four-syllable word she uttered the other day while swimming. In this case, however, she didn't use it correctly. She was trying to describe the feeling of having water go up her nose.  In the effort to express what they mean, four-year-olds don't shy away from mistakes.

"I hear a sound in your engine," she said as we were driving.  "It sounds like a--I can't think how to say it--Valacroy?"

"Hmmm?" I asked, having no idea what that might be.

"You know that thing you play with a stick?"

Thinking of sports, I suggested several possibilities, including pool.

"No, a musical instrument!" she said.

"Violin?"

"Yes, that's it!  Violin!  Your engine sounds like a violin is in it."

Whenever I ask her what she wants to drink, I hope it will be lemonade--because "littamade" is one of the only two words she mispronounces, the other being "Mazz-a-gine."

When we arrived at Jo Ann Fabrics to meet her mom, I told her that next door to the fabric store is a store that sells musical instruments.  "Like violins?" she asked.  "I bet there's lovely music in there."

She's always loved fabric.  She was thrilled to be in a huge fabric store.  "This is what I'm talking about!" she said, touching bolt after bolt of cloth.  "This is so cool!  Thank you, Yenna, for bringing me here!"

This is what I'm talking about?  At four, children  have mastery of language, including idioms and syntax.  From here on out, it's just adding vocabulary.

She's bilingual, but she refuses to translate sentences for me.  I'm curious about that.  Maybe she can't yet switch codes in full sentences?  But when I try a Spanish word, she finds my pronunciation hilarious!

Broken Stuff

In my hurry to lower the Murphy bed for Day and Tom on their first night in the Casita, I accidentally pushed the UP button instead of the DOWN button.  I heard a terrible popping sound emanating from the apparatus that holds the cables for upping and downing. The pulley pulled loose from the ceiling.  The wench itself was not affected, but every time I saw that pulley hanging on the outside, instead of inside the roof where it belonged, I cringed.

In a former long chapter of my life, such mistakes would be magnified and mentioned over and over in loud angry voice.  In the domain of what-was-then men's work, I didn't have a clue how to do things "right"--like towing a car, for example.

Funny now, how a punitive angry voice can install itself in the mind and remain there decades later.  Not funny ha ha, but funny unsettling.

Jaro repaired the pulley yesterday while I was at physical therapy.  Unfortunately, since I wasn't here to explain the finer points of lowering and raising the bed, his repair work made the situation worse, tangling the cables.  When I discovered that last night, I felt terrible and called Mike to tell him what had happened.

Nothing broken rattles Mike.  That's one of the things I love about him.  He suggested that in the future I might want to plan to be here when anyone fixes anything, but said, "Hey, it's just a lesson learned, nothing more."

Jaro is coming back to try his hand at it today, but if he doesn't fix it, Mike will do it when he comes to Texas. There's nothing broken that he can't fix. "It's no big deal," he said. His voice is always reassuring and kind.  I love those words--"No.  Big.  Deal."

After spending the morning on the phone with State Farm and body shops, to no avail, Linda Kaufman gave me the name of her body guy and he can fix the car next week, so things are perking along.

I've postponed my trip to Georgia to take care of broken things and will head that way in late September in time for fall colors.








Tuesday, August 16, 2016

My house guest today

is Precious Elena....who is alternately and coyote, a wolf, and a bear cub.  But in these pictures, she looks like a little girl.



She positioned herself under the word, Precious,
at the Leaning Pear on Friday....

Saturday, August 13, 2016

Part 2 Trampoline Park

Nathan had to leave to go to his other dad's on Friday, so here's what the other eight of us did:

Thrift shops, Fujiya lunch on Friday, shopping at La Cantera for school clothes (during which I came home and took a nap) and then a trip to the Trampoline Park near the Huebner theater (which I didn't even know we had!) in which all of us but Veronica (who has a knee injury)  jumped, me very gingerly, everyone else quite show-offy, especially the big guys doing flips.

Marcus and Elena

Jackson dancing

Tom

Day

Will and Elena and Veronica

Me warming up

Me and Marcus in the dodgeball room




Thursday and Friday, Part 1

Last night at the taqueria, Marcus asked Tom, 'What was your favorite thing we've done at Yenna's house?"

"Bingo!" Tom said.

Before they came, I'd found a Bingo spinner at a garage sale, then ordered a pad of Bingo cards from Amazon, packaged little prizes, wondering if the kids--who all like video games--would like it.  It was a hit. Nathan's favorite part was spinning and calling out numbers.

Preceding Bingo, we had a magic show, directed by best pals Nathan and Marcus:



Bingo Ball Roller


Elena turned into a "big girl" this trip, sleeping every night with me in my bed.  "I wish we could all live in Yenna's house!" she said.

Yesterday, we set out for a drive to Wimberley and I suggested we stop briefly in Blanco on the way.  We drove down to the state park so I could show Day some little houses.  On a winding road, Blue got bumped by a big Dually--a truck with huge double tires--and the front corner of the driver's side got crushed.  She will need a a new door and front quarter panel, but she's running okay.



The driver of the truck said it was my fault, but Day and Tom and Jackson, who were with me, said otherwise.  No one was hurt, but it shook me up for a couple of hours as car wrecks do.

We proceeded with the day trip and had a good day, shopping in Wimberley and Gruene, having lunch at the Leaning Pear and dinner at  Clear Creek.

The Leaning Tree

Day and Tom

Yenna and Elena

Elena and Nathan

Four precious grandchildren
(Four to Fourteen)
in Wimberley



The words on the Leaning Tree Wall were made out of letters from old signs--spelling out quotations.  The last one, a longtime favorite of mine, by Mary Oliver is this:

"What do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"





Wednesday, August 10, 2016

Nathan, Day, Elena and Tom

When Elena gets sleepy, she cuddles up to sweet Tom,
the baby-magnet, and puts her arm around him
Nathan, our breakfast chef

Today was a good day.  We went to see Elena's new school, and everyone but Jackson and me went swimming, and then we had dinner at Adalantes.  What a happy surprise to see Charlotte and Kate come in--Charlotte said it was a magnetic convergence.

Day and Elena on the iPad
My two curly-haired girls






Tuesday, August 9, 2016

Tuesday Night

Tonight will be the first night I've had all four grandchildren spending the night.  I hope Elena makes it through the night.  At this point, she's talking about never leaving.

Day and Tom are sleeping in the casita and Will and Bonnie went home for the night and will be back tomorrow.

The kids entertained us with a magic show and we had game night--Bingo with prizes.  All is well in Grandmother Land tonight.


Monday, August 8, 2016

Supper

"Gnudi appetizer, smoked salmon sandwich, a dessert that was so far off the chart I know not where to begin! Butterscotch, fudge, coconut ice cream, little chocolate bally things, tapioca Bally things, sesame seeds and some kind of powder made of sesame and some other spices. It transported is to another time and place! Oh and pickled blackberries! Do I have your attention?!"

This was a text from Pam describing her dessert at Supper at the Emma Hotel.

I'm having to erase that text so I won't salivate every time I read it!


Sunday, August 7, 2016

A Whole Mosaic House

Alison shared this short video with me--Enjoy!

https://vimeo.com/173579944

I've always wanted to do one wall in mosaic.  How about an entire house?


Pokemon Go!




This new game craze sounds like science fiction to me.

Yesterday, I drove to Boerne for our Topo Chicas annual retreat. Suddenly, these cute little guys started landing on my dash and hands!

Victoria, my passenger and friend, spied them and captured them on her iPhone camera--but I couldn't see them with my naked eye!

If you don't know Pokeman Go, you will soon.  Victoria is a delighted player and she told me all about this game that blends fantasy and reality as the player battles and captures adorable little creatures.  Her college students are going to think she's super cool to be in on the game!

There are Poke-stops all over town, all over everywhere, even at the Nature Center a block away from here.  My grandkids are going to be so impressed next week that their Yenna has Pokies in the Mini!




Senior Moments by Linda Kaufman

What is it like to start dating again in your seventies, after a 47-year-marriage?

Do you ever feel invisible to your adult children?

How does one navigate the move to assisted living and relinquishing of freedom?

How do you live with regrets and losses?  How does one survive saying good-bye to a husband on his death bed?

These are among the themes portrayed in a series of interwoven vignettes in the musical, "Senior Moments," by Linda Kaufman.

Last night was opening night in San Antonio, and I was (as we said in the Sixties) "blown away" by the talented cast, Linda's music, and the humorous and poignant handling of the things most of us dread coming down the pike in old age.

Linda is almost eighty herself, but she has the energy of a forty-year-old--a successful realtor, a piano teacher, and writer.  She's a powerhouse of enthusiasm!

A few years ago, three of us in the audience were in Montreal together with Linda and remember her singing "The Power of A Dream" to us.  When we heard it performed by the cast last night, we were teary together.  A beautiful  song, maybe the best of the whole show, it resonated with us on so many levels, one of which was that Linda herself had realized her dream, had made it happen!

The program quoted Linda as saying, "I don't want to leave this world until Barbra Streisand sings one of my songs."  While Streisand herself didn't sing the songs, it must have been overwhelming to hear so many great voices singing them on stage.

Today there are two more sold-out performances, and I imagine there will be another standing ovation at the end as there was last night.

At one point, after a song about "getting fit," the emcee asked Linda's healthy 94-year-old husband and his twin sister to stand to show "what it looks like" to be fit at 94!

Back when I first retired from UTSA, I was a writing coach and Linda was my first client.  Actually, it was her idea and she often referred me to other friends of hers and some forever friendships grew out of it.  Linda and I worked together for several years off and on, then Linda suggested I start leading writing groups.  Not only does Linda reach for her own dreams,  she encourages her friends to do the same!

Those of us a little younger look to Linda as a role model of positive, energetic, optimistic living--all of which were embodied in the themes of her musical.  Linda's a rock star in our book!



Saturday, August 6, 2016

A good line from a mediocre movie....

The therapist was talking to a couple.

"Here's what therapy can do.  It can shine a light on what's wrong.....But sometimes, the glare is so strong, it just feels easier to go back to the way things were."

Logic

In college, I studied, then later taught, logical fallacies--and how to avoid them in rational discourse and argument.

Overgeneralization, red herrings, ad hominem attacks, black and white thinking, etc.

Teachers teaching logic during this election season are going to have some great material to use to teach students what not to do.


Crazy



Charlotte sent me and Kate this picture via text.....

In part, because Kate's porch is the place we can be crazy together at the same time or separately, we three, while we drink to crazy with kombucha!  Crazy happy, crazy sad, crazy almost always leads to something good.



Friday, August 5, 2016

My Bulletin Board for Friday

Sometimes I put notes, recipes, and links on my blog so I will know where to find them when I need them.  Like these suggestions for podcasts from Carlene:

1.

"I didn't have to water grass this morning when I got back from walking and wanted to avoid TV
So I reckoned I could use this time to go to school and learn snippets of what I missed with a truncated college experience and following .....

I chose Radio Hour - Shifting Time - for a start - since that was what I was doing with this hour - and learned some interesting stuff - even a line I failed to capture, but will have to go back to
- but I thought in line with your blog about changing home settings and moving furniture, etc.

There was a Ted Talk featured and I did go to that - Laura Carstensen, a psychologist, 61 - her talk - Older People Are Happier...."

I'm going to check these out!

2.

I went to a physical therapist this morning whose work is unique (for me) and really effective--Myofascial Release.  I'll study the paperwork she gave me and write more about what that is when I find out.  Her name is Dianne Hargroder, and she was highly recommended to me by Alison--and now I'm passing it on to you.  She talks about the "glue" that forms in our bodies with trauma and how her particular form of physical therapy clears out that stagnant glue.

3.

Pam treated me to a delicious pizza and glass of wine tonight.  TriBeCa is a great little place for happy hour on McCullough at the round-about.  After my PT and with my usual low-tolerance for alcohol, one glass made me tipsy.  Tipsy is fun once in a while!

4.

Freda brought me a library book today that is, so far, excellent:  My Name is Lucy Barton, by Elizabeth Strout, Pulitzer Prize-winning author of Olive Kitteridge.

5.

Tomorrow, my Saturday writing group is having its annual retreat, this year at Jen's house in Boerne. Today I've been buying little tiny presents for my special Topo Chicas.  After the retreat, several of us are going to see Linda Kaufman's sold-out play, "Senior Moments."

6.

ALL my children and grandchildren will be here next week. It's been way too long since I've had them all together at my house--I'm so excited!  Day and Tom and the boys are with her dad this week and I can hardly wait to see them.








Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Houses of a few Grandmothers

I stopped by Kate's yesterday morning for the arrival of the presents. When the postman walked up to Kate's porch with two packages, she said, "Here comes Santa Clause!"

We were  like two little kids on Christmas morning opening the boxes and pulling out shower curtains for her beautiful claw-foot antique tub, a party-pink chandelier for her newly remodeled bathroom, and a multicolored one that will hang over the large dining table.

Here she is modeling one of the components of her sparkling gypsy-colored chandelier--as if they are giant earrings.

We've reached an age, we said, where anything goes!




Then I went to Cindy's house to talk about her writing and the upcoming Saturday retreat in Boerne.
Cindy's house, like Kate's, is cozy and colorful--a house of textures, photographs, and antiques collected over the years.  "Nothing matches," she says, "So everything does."






I remember when Mimi was about my age and she changed all her furniture.  I wondered how she could change the things she had had "all my entire life" of ten years.  Now I understand.  As Mike said, as we are changing we like to change our spaces.  It gives us a lift to create a new canvas that matches who we are now--like shiny gypsy-styled chandeliers, quilts for our beds and throws for old chairs, and whatever reflects the whimsy we want to live inside.

Gone are the old rules about what goes together, what matches what, or what works according to anyone else's plan. We're playing house now for our own pleasure.