"the space to find our language"

Today's  Fresh Air on NPR featured an interview with identical twins, award-winning song writers, Tegan and Sara.

https://www.npr.org/programs/fresh-air/

For twenty years, since high school, the sisters (both lesbians) have been writing and singing together.

Twenty years ago, they say, interviewers never asked them about their sexual preferences, though they agreed it was quite obvious that they were.  Homosexuality was, they said, a "hot potato issue."

But they agreed that it was best that way as it "gave us the space to find our language." I love that phrase.