Betty always says that I "make decisions by consensus"--which is probably true. Before I buy a big ticket item, I usually solicit opinions from everyone in hearing range.
This is another theme in this book--how do we distinguish our own opinions from those of other people? We all have "internalized voices" in our heads--the opinions of people who matter to us. Sometimes, the author says, all those voices make quite a clatter in the brain, so loud that we can't hear our own voice.
"Being independent means dealing with the competing ideas, making contact with these people who matter to you, but then stomaching the ambivalence in carving out your own choice--which is likely to be an opinion that no other head in the world completely agrees hears or agrees with...."
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